tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post9116600770358923933..comments2024-03-21T04:18:22.646-06:00Comments on a police wife: fightingMrs. Fuzzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05092899828605739840noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-50891303238386627082010-02-06T21:28:58.236-07:002010-02-06T21:28:58.236-07:00One of the things that really helped OH and I figh...One of the things that really helped OH and I fight better (less?) and communicate more was the book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. We read it after OH had been a LEO for a couple of years. The info isn't new but they way it was presented was marriage changing. Just a good read, especially for LE families.Genesishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04533744882173635891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-65172723255292083382010-02-05T23:23:09.000-07:002010-02-05T23:23:09.000-07:00I think the title of that book is Emotional Surviv...I think the title of that book is <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Survival-Law-Enforcement-Officers/dp/0971725403" rel="nofollow">Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement</a>. I actually have a copy of the book but have only skimmed it. Sounds like I should pull it out again. I could have written this post, almost word for word. It's kind of creepy how similar we are!KDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14760890662355890558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-67870292228470106962010-02-05T20:19:00.595-07:002010-02-05T20:19:00.595-07:00Oh my goodness, thanks for the shout out!
After ...Oh my goodness, thanks for the shout out! <br /><br />After reading this post, a book came to mind that we give to all our recruits. Unfortunately, I'm at home now and I can't remember the name of it. But it is by Gil Martin. It's a police book about how us cops deal with the stress of the job (or not) and how we deal with our families. I will try to remember to get you the name of itCMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697762495151569561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-1082336477441823712010-02-05T17:32:37.005-07:002010-02-05T17:32:37.005-07:00Being a Communications major (hahaha), it's VE...Being a Communications major (hahaha), it's VERY important to not use the phrase, "You make me feel ______". This immediately makes the other person defensive. Instead, you should say, "I feel ______ when you ______". This brings your feelings about the particular action out in the open so the other person can put themselves in your shoes. :-)<br /><br />Another pointer isAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-33828425830841197182010-02-05T12:46:49.793-07:002010-02-05T12:46:49.793-07:00"Or sometimes it's not until we're in..."Or sometimes it's not until we're in bed and the silence is too much for us to bear and we end up inching towards one another until our feet are tangled up together."<br /><br />I love how that's written.Christopherhttp://www.thewarriorpoets.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-1773197041675671402010-02-05T12:32:52.838-07:002010-02-05T12:32:52.838-07:00I really needed this post. Thanks! I wish I had &q...I really needed this post. Thanks! I wish I had "defusing the argument" success stories, but I'm actually in need of others success because we haven't defused very well. <br /><br />P.S. I gave you a blog award on my family blog. You don't have to do it unless you want to, but I just wanted to let you know that your posts always brighten my day and a lot of wisdom with whichNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02254977947679163203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-69372653424740399402010-02-05T08:33:36.673-07:002010-02-05T08:33:36.673-07:00Ditto on the communication issues here.
I am the...Ditto on the communication issues here. <br /><br />I am the one usually trying to deflate the tenseness with saying something dumb or threatening to hug--that always results in a laugh and defensive posture.Slamdunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13087161268629251860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-45347522879373714862010-02-05T08:17:08.849-07:002010-02-05T08:17:08.849-07:00Usually our fighting comes from our lack of commun...Usually our fighting comes from our lack of communication. I love to talk, he loves to keep it inside. We love to use humor in our fights, it keeps it light, and doesn't let it get to a point where hurtful things can be said. By the end of it we're back to us and on the same page.TMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06055635550588656925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1897540199159877084.post-37088903710566783682010-02-05T05:11:44.682-07:002010-02-05T05:11:44.682-07:00As you know, my relationship with Indubitably is s...As you know, my relationship with Indubitably is still somewhat new so most of our fights center around the fact that we are still learning about the inner workings of one another. When I begin to question how feels about me, I remind myself that he is more of a man of actions than words. And then I stop and conjure up a few examples of things he has recently done. That usually makes me less Sister Copinherhairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14896140845912858618noreply@blogger.com