Monday, July 17, 2017
This is a text between HF and I last night. He was a couple of hours late from his shift and I asked, "where are you?" to check up on him. When I got his response, I looked at our recent conversation and saw so much more in between the lines.
First, he didn't take any food with him to work and was hungry. Sometimes when he forgets, we might meet him somewhere to eat, or drop off dinner. Sometimes he hits a drive thru. Next, it is pretty typical of my guy to give me some kind of a compliment that knocks me off of my feet. He had only mentioned similar sentiments before leaving for work earlier that day as well. I would say that is a great way to part! Last, the "I can't go to sleep until I know where you are" text. If he hadn't answered I probably wouldn't be too worried. I am a seasoned police wife after all, you know... His response was that he had a DV. For those not in the know, that stands for domestic violence. I don't know any details other than that, but there you have a glimpse into one of the many things an officer deals with on any given day. I am sad for the people involved in the DV. People are hurting and doing the hurting. I am sure HF acted professionally and compassionately dealing with the situation. I am glad my man is home safe.
I have to admit sometimes that I look through our past texts when I am missing him. Sometimes the thought crosses my mind that if something were to happen, I have these conversations via text that sum up our love and care for each other that I would cherish always.
Now if only I could just go to bed at a reasonable hour and not mimic his shift waiting for him to get home...
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image via Amazon
image found here. Such a cute police themed room for a child.
Monday, July 10, 2017
Yes, my first post in over a year is about donuts. I just thought it was important to note that on July 14, Krispy Kreme is selling a dozen donuts for only $0.80 cents! And it is any variety. So I know where we're going on Friday. Here is a link to the yahoo article that caught my eye. Mark Your Calendar!
I don't know if anyone still reads this, but what a couple of years we have had. We bought our first house. It is NOT in the same city HF works in, which is where we were living previously. To be honest, it is awesome not living in the same city anymore. Or the ghetto. Or in a townhouse without a yard.
We are on summer break, but all our kids are in school full time. Our 14 year old, Daisy, is starting high school next month. What?! Beau is 11 and going into 6th, and Luke actually skipped a grade last year and is going into 4th grade. He is 8. He was just born when I started this ole blog. So our family is growing up, we've been through a lot the last couple of years, but we are good. We are solid. We thought our family would even expand some more, but I had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. and that ship has seemed to sail. I started working full time, because, hello, police family, and we have settled into a sort of happy routine.
HF has finished his first stint in investigations, and has recently been rotated back into patrol. This is normal for his agency. Detectives isn't a rank or permanent assignment. So we went from enjoying essentially a 9-5 schedule, with holidays and weekends off. <insert maniacal laughter> As you know, that was not the case!!! And now he is doing swings. Whatever.
So the main reason for all the radio silence? Mostly, I've been really focused on my family as it should be, but seriously? All of the CRAP the last couple of years with police has been frustrating. When I started this blog, there wasn't a lot of police stuff out there for me to read, or to go to for support, etc. Now? There is a TON. Not only have so many started blogging, there are facebook groups for police wives, cop youtubers, facebook pages, authors, and more! I turned to my state's police wife group and got involved with them and the happenings within our own state and helping to support the events and needs of the police families more locally. It has been greatly rewarding to have that resource. However, my need to journal my own feelings and experiences is coming back to me.
So if you're still out there...Hi.
Sunday, April 24, 2016
Monday, February 1, 2016
If I had a nickel for every time someone said to HF, " I pay your salary", or "You work for me", or "Catching all the real bad guys tonight are we" when they are getting a citation. It's oddly comforting when you see moments like this in a movie because you know it's not just you. What are some of the ridiculous things people have said to your LEO? For the most part HF just ignores rude remarks and stays polite and professional, but once in a while he slips in a good, calm, satisfying comeback.
Sunday, December 6, 2015
Guys, apparently this has been happening?! From now (November 30th) until January 31, 2016, First Responders will receive FREE ADMISSION plus one guest and additional tix are only $25-$30 each. So basically, my whole family (5 of us) can go for $75. How cool is that?! Also, the Knott's hotel is offering a 25% discount on their hotel during this time for all First Responders. Click here for all the details!
As a side note, Medieval Times is near Knott's and I've never been. I totally want to go there. My kids would die. Sounds like we might have a new yearly tradition on our hands folks!
Tuesday, November 10, 2015
Monday, November 9, 2015
What do you think about this concealment holster for off duty carry? I think it seems like a great option! Has anyone tried it? How do you carry? This seems like something HF would really dig. I think the prices seem reasonable as well. I like their website and I like their videos.
I've decided 2016 is the year that I get my concealed carry permit. It's something I've been thinking about a lot. Only thing is I rarely wear the type of clothing where one could conceal a gun! Little did I know there exists the well armed woman website with a page dedicated to different carrying options for women. I like the purse holster and the bra holster! What?! Awesome!
I understand that the idea behind concealed carry is supposed to be a comfort, not comfortable, but for someone who likes to wear skinny jeans and leggings, maxi dresses and skirts, etc. I need to rethink this. And I'm sorry, I am not yet at a stage where I am willing to sacrifice fashion in order to carry a gun. There. I said it. So I love the other options for carrying. Now to think about practicing at a range with onlookers if I have the "boob buddy" holster...
Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
I received an email from The Marshall Project. They are looking for participants to help in filling out an online questionnaire. Here is an excerpt:
"I'm writing to you from The Marshall Project, a nonprofit, nonpartisan news organization covering criminal justice. We aim to educate and raise awareness around the criminal justice system.
One of our initiatives is to share the perspectives of individuals involved in the criminal justice system (police officers, former inmates, corrections officers, public defenders, etc.) through a set of questionnaires we publish on our site.
We recently put together a questionnaire for spouses of police officers and wanted to see if you, and any other women or men you know, might be interested in sharing your experiences."
Here is a link to the questionnaire: http://goo.gl/