Thursday, October 1, 2015

Feature: Skylark Chainmaille- The Thin Blue Line Series

Today I am featuring a talented jeweler. Elisa, at Skylark Chainmaille. Please read about her, and her Thin Blue Line Series, and enter a giveaway for her store. See details below!

When I was a kid, my favorite cousin became a cop. I remember hed come by the house for dinner (we were in his sector), in his uniform, and I’d peek shyly at him. I thought he was so cool. The absolute epitome of a public servant - ready, willing, and wicked buff (able). Ive had many friends go into law enforcement over the years. Everything from local PD to state to ATF. All of them had that same desire to help. 

My wife was a cop for almost a decade before recently deciding to make a career change. Living as a police family was an incredibly proud thing. My desire to find ways to support her without screaming I LOVE A COP was a hard push/pull for me. So, I created the Thin Blue Line series.  It’s subtle - a quick nod that feels familiar and a little bit secret all at once. I knew I wanted to give a portion of the sales to something law enforcement related, and when one of my wifes friends was killed on duty, that was reinforced. 

I've always been a maker. A taker-apart-er. You know, just to see how things worked. I was the kid who took apart the toaster to see its guts, but then never got around to putting it back together. Too many other things to investigate. 

I love a new IKEA purchase and the hours of assembly required. 

I ask a lot of questions. I want to know how you work, what motivates your thinking, your decisions. 

I started out drawing (when I'd exhausted household appliances to get my hands on) and making massive Lego and block structures that I demanded be left in place in the middle of the kitchen floor. Forts constructed of every available pillow reigned in our family room (in fact, we recently purchased a couch, and I made sure it would yield satisfying couch forts for my daughters, now 1 and 3 and a half. Don’t forget the half).

I learned, and became obsessed with, stained glass as a kid in summer camp, a craft that carried through my college years and beyond. I went to RISD (Rhode Island School of Design), majoring in Industrial Design, honing my critical thinking, and my making. Wood shop, metal shop, drawing, 2- and 3- dimensional design principles... my time in school built upon my visceral need to know how things work, how to build them, and of course, how to take them apart. 

We made a baby, (and eventually adopted a second) and for a while, that put a pause on my making of objects. 

I made our daughter a toy box, and my wife a spice rack, but wood was never my medium of choice. 

I dabbled in jewelry making in college and recently became reacquainted with the craft. It satisfies my need to make, to learn the how and why of a design. And, it allows me to use my powers for good. 

I work in lots of metals, but I like stainless steel the best. It’s got presence to it, warms when you wear it, and it’s tough as hell - just like police families. I hope folks like what they see - I’m always happy to talk about custom orders if you’re not seeing exactly what you want. I want you to love the piece and wear the heck out of it. This is not special stuff to tuck away for those few times a year. Wear it, love it, be proud of it, just like you are of your wo/man in blue. 

ENTER TO WIN: Elisa is offering a $30 gift for her store to be used on anything you want in The Thin Blue Line Series. Just enter a comment below and share this post. This giveaway will end on Halloween, October 31st. I will announce the winner then through

Even if you do not win the giveaway, Elisa is also offering readers a discount code to be used at checkout for 15% of your entire purchase. Use ACOPSWIFE2015 at checkout to receive this special offer.

This coupon code is good until the end of the year.  Happy Shopping everyone! I'm thinking of having a custom bike chain made for HF.... I'l be in touch Elisa...

Wednesday, September 30, 2015


You might have seen this on Facebook as of late. I am not sure where the original source is from, but it is being shared by the thousands via here. A lot of it resonated with HF when he read it. It is true that police officers see things that people aren't meant to see. Things so awful and hidden from public we can't even imagine its existence. LEOs should be loved and supported in this, not abused by the very people they are protecting. If I could give one gift to the world, it would be the ability to see things through another's eyes, or shoes. Whichever metaphor you prefer. Just read this and share your thoughts. It's so great. 

"Those who fight monsters inevitably change. Because of all that they see and do, they lose their innocence, and a piece of their humanity with it. If they want to survive, they begin to adopt some of the same characteristics as the monsters they fight. It is necessary. They become capable of rage, and extreme violence. 

There is a fundamental difference, however. They keep those monster tendencies locked away in a cage, deep inside. That monster is only allowed out to protect others, to accomplish the mission, to get the job done.....Not for the perverse pleasure that the monsters feel when they harm others. In fact, those monster tendencies cause damage...GUILT, ISOLATION, DEPRESSION, PTSD. There is a cost for visiting violence on others when you are not a monster. Those who do so know one thing...The cost inflicted upon society as a whole is far greater without those who fight monsters. That is why they are willing to make that horrible sacrifice so that others may live peaceably.

Before you judge one of us, remember this...

We witness things that humans aren't meant to see...and we see them repeatedly. We perform the duties that you feel are beneath you. We solve your problems... Often by visiting violence upon others. We run towards the things that you run away from. We go out to fight what you fear. We stand between you, and the monsters that want to damage you. You want to pretend that they don't exist, but we know better. We do the things that the vast majority are too soft, too weak, too cowardly to do.

Your life is more peaceful.....because of us.

The current political climate in this country holds that there is nothing worth fighting for. Submission is the popular mantra. Warriors are decried, denigrated, and cast as morally inferior. We know how childish, how asinine, and how cowardly that mindset is.

We know this.....There ARE things worth fighting, and dying for. We know that not every problem can be solved through rational discourse...that some problems can only be solved through the application of force and violence. And, while we do prefer the former....we are perfectly capable of the latter.

We believe that fighting what others fear is honorable, noble, and just....and are willing to pay the price for that deeply held belief. Why? For us, it isn't a choice...

It is what we are. We are simply built that way."

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Home Depot Employee

Home Depot Kitchen Design Tool Logo

I was shopping at Home Depot for a shop vac, and a nice older gentleman asked me if I needed any help. I eventually settled on a Rigid 16 gallon wet/dry vacuum with a detachable blower. Before I could load it up, he asked, "What does your husband do for a living?" I was hesitant at first and then I said quietly, "He's a police officer". He then said to me, "So he's gone a lot from home? Works a lot of holidays and special occasions? You have to do a lot of things around the house by yourself?" I answered "yes" to everything. He said, "I was in the military for many years and I know how hard it is on the family to be gone so much. Tell your husband thanks for his service." He took out his box cutter and opened the box. I was confused and probably looking at him like he was crazy, and then he said, "Oops. Since it's opened, I"m going to have to give it to you 30% off." Then he winked at me and carried it to the front of the store and made sure I had help out to my car. It took me completely by surprise. His kindness really touched me. There are great people out there! In this line of work we rarely look for or see the good in others, but it's there if we pay attention.

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Police-Themed Man Cave

Does your man fantasize about having his own man cave? Mine does and I am always looking for inspiration for the someday-maybe-possibly-could be-hopefully soon man cave. There are some fun things out there. Check these out!

Remote Gun Lamp

Tactical Firearm Concealment Shelves

Marshall Amplifier Fridge

LIGHTED Hunter Green w/ Dark Brown Trim Dart Board Backboard/Surround Dartboard Cabinet  - For Game Room, Man Cave or Gift Idea
And it wouldn't be a woman's touch without a 'beautiful' bouquet of flowers now would it...
Hollow Point Bullets Flower Pot

What's in your dream man cave?

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Word of the Day: Holster Sniffer

Word of the Day

I always laugh to myself when HF is talking and he throws in "cop slang". Sometimes I have to stop him in the middle of his stories to ask him what he means. Sometimes they forget that not everyone knows what they are saying. For example,  Holster Sniffer.

According to HF: Somebody who is more interested in law enforcement than he is in joining law enforcement, usually in a positive way. They kind of worship cops, might be a wannabe cop, but can't for one reason or another. They might also consider themselves experts without having been there, done that. 

Do you have the same definition as HF? Or does it mean something else where you live?

Also, I just saw that there is an app called Cop Slang. Anyone ever use it? I'm wondering if it would come in handy when hanging with my guy and his cop buddies. . .

Monday, September 21, 2015

This is happening right now


I couldn't not post about this. This is from my hometown in California. I knew this couple. He was a good man and a great police officer and although this is a very tragic event that happened last week, this shows a beautiful side of the law enforcement family. It doesn't matter if you are over state lines, LEOs have family wherever they go. I am certain the family is touched and appreciative of this gesture for their dad and grandpa. I wish I could see the escort in person. My thoughts and prayers are with the Arthur family.

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Stinky Body Armor: another possible solution

If you are like me, a great deal of time is spent trying to get the STANK out of under armor shirts and ballistic vests. I have researched online, talked to other wives and officers, and I think I have heard just about it all. Febreeze, Odoban, washing in vinegar and baking soda and then air drying, etc. I think we have even discussed it on here before with many of you commenting about what methods you use to take care of the nasty odor. I found temporary success with a few of these methods, but it is never what I hope for.

Enter SECRET. You know, "Strong Enough for a Man, Made for a Woman"? Yes, that SECRET. HF was in the locker room and an officer was rubbing Secret all over his torso and back. Basically all around his middle area. HF was like, "What are you doing?!" He tells HF that a firefighter friend told him about it. And it prevents your armor and under armor from stinking. And the scent releases into the armor and that's all it smells like. He also said he hadn't cleaned it in 3 months. HF took a sniff and said it smelled nice! So there you have it. Secret deodorant for women. SO FAR SO GOOD.
Also, do any of you use a Cool Cop? I've heard that also helps with the stink because it's helping with the sweat. Would you recommend it? Can it be easily removed in an emergency situation? And can you jimmy rig one yourself with a few cheap parts?

Friday, September 11, 2015


Guess the Cop Game

Remember when I made that Guess the Cop game for HF's academy graduation party? A lot of people have asked for a copy of the file these last few years so I made it as a free printable for anyone to have and use if they so desire. It's not anything fancy, and I'm definitely not tech savvy, just something I threw together. I also have a title page and the answers as printables if you visit my Scribd page by clicking on my name just below.  You can print everything out and put it in a binder and let the games begin! Doesn't have to be for a graduation party. Could be for a retirement, promotion, etc. Enjoy!

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Fuzz Family Update

I started this police wife blog almost 7 years ago. Our baby was just a couple of months old, and our two other littles were just 3 and 6. HF was finishing up in the police academy, and we were living in a townhouse in the middle of the city HF works in. We felt like we were just surviving. Trying to make it another day. It was crazy.

Fast forward a few years later. It's still crazy. But in a different way. Our baby is almost 7. Daisy and Luke are 12 and 9. HF has been a police officer and now SWAT for over 6 years now. I started working. We bought our first house in a suburb of the city HF works for, and we are surviving. I would even venture to say that we are thriving. 

HF loves his commute. It gives him time to decompress and clear his head before he gets home. Our neighborhood is safe and quiet, and the kids can walk to school. We love being in our own home away from the city. We notice a difference in our stress, our attitudes, and honestly, we feel a little more grownup. 

Over the last couple of years my absence could best be explained by just plain old life. As my kids get older they have more activities. I am able to work again with the kids in school full time. We began looking for a home. I became more involved in our community and church. I also became more involved with our state's police wife groups. All in all, life's balancing act is just that. A balancing act. Getting organized, taking care of our needs, then figuring out what's most important and prioritizing as such. 

Although my police wife blogging took a back burner, police wife, or family life has continued. The hours upon hours of working, the side jobs (all so he can bring home a decent wage). Don't forget overtime and training. Occasional worry about HF when he goes to work. Lying awake some nights with worry. I plan with other police wives how to improve public perception. We think of ways to enhance the lives of our LEOs. We don't broadcast our "police-ness" for safety reasons, and we talk to the kids a lot about how to be safe and what they should and shouldn't say or talk about in public. It's ridiculous. But important. 

Gone are the days of everything feeling brand new or uncertain. Heightened awareness still, yes. That will never change, but now it's natural. A part of him. A part of us. We move about our day like anyone else, but there is that sense of what sets us apart that embodies our minds and our hearts. With all its challenges, faults, as well as its merits, it still feels like this is what we were meant to do and we feel that honor and that pride that only those in the know can speak of, however openly or secretly it has to be.

I am back to blogging. Talking about all things police related. It's good to be back.