Friday, March 21, 2014

Stamped Police Wife Jewelry

Howdy! This deal is for today only. But even if you miss it, she has some awesome police wife hand stamped jewelry in her etsy shop worth looking at!

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Calling all cops

I saw this news article today and thought I would put the word out if anyone wants to help!

Colorado Springs Police Officer Seeking PD Patches To Replace Sons Burned Collection

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Research Participants Needed

I have been in contact with a doctoral student, Andrea, for some time now, who has recently been approved to conduct a research study. As you may have guessed, it has to do with police wives. Andrea is looking for 10 police wives to complete a short interview with her over the phone or via Skype/Gchat Video. If you are interested in helping her, please read the following advertisement and contact Andrea for more information and to participate. Her email is included at the bottom of the post. Good luck with your research Andrea!

Are you the wife of a male police officer?

How have you addressed the challenges associated with a police marriage?

 I am a doctoral student conducting research about how police marriages address the challenges that come with police work.  The purpose of my research is to explore the strategies that female spouses of male police officers use to maintain their marriages and support their husbands as they face the stresses of police work.  Semi-structured interviews will be conducted in person, by telephone or over the Internet to identify what sorts of daily coping skills and strategies wives employ to support their marriages and their spouses.  The interviews should take no more than 30 – 60 minutes, are entirely voluntary, and your confidentiality is assured. To participate in this study, you must be female, at least 18 years of age, and be married to a police officer for at least one year.  In addition, you must be able to complete a written questionnaire in English, be able to participate in an individual interview in English, and have access to the Internet or a telephone.

Identifying the coping skills utilized by female spouses of male police officers may have positive implications for professional practice.  Future police officers and their spouses may be able to learn from the strategies you use to support your marriage and your spouse.    Also, it is my hope that police departments will review this study and place more emphasis on the role of family during police academy training and implement more supports for police families.

For more information about my study and to participate, please contact me at

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge

This video is worth watching. It especially touched me because HF has dealt with a number of suicides/suicidal people and has even been called while at home to deal with someone that he had previous encounters with that would only speak to him. If you have 5 minutes or so, it will be worth your time. We can always use a positive LEO story, can't we?

Friday, November 2, 2012

new LEO blogs

I hope you all had a fabulous Halloween. We went to our children's school for a Halloween parade and celebrated a certain 4 year old's birthday. When our children went to bed, we ate their candy.
In other news, I just wanted to post some new to me LEO blogs. If you're not already reading, Go. Read. Report. I'm just kidding about the report part. Also, if you have a LEO-related blog or know of any other blogs or websites that you think we should be reading, and I haven't posted a link to it, please leave me a comment or send me an email and I will update my links.

Friday, October 26, 2012

NRA Life of Duty Patriot Profiles "DEVER"

I love these documentaries put out by NRA Life of Duty.

NRA Life of Duty presented by Brownells and Smith & Wesson are paying tribute this month to the last of the great cowboy sheriffs Larry Dever – a man who always stood up for his beliefs regardless of the cost. View the Patriot Profile Trailer below and visit the NRA Life of Duty Patriot Profiles channel sponsored by Smith & Wesson for more documentaries at

View the Full Feature at the link below and watch more documentaries and tributes on the NRA Life of Duty Patriot Profiles channel sponsored by Smith and Wesson at

Also check out the Pinal County SWAT team: Scout Eviction -


Wednesday, October 24, 2012

a conversation

Let me set the scene. We were lying in bed in the middle of the night awake. HF was laying on his back and I was spooning his side with my right leg draped over him. He was playing with my hair. It was pure bliss. I whispered and asked, like many do in this situation, "What are you thinking about?"

HF was quiet for a moment and then he answered softly, "Head shots".


Me: what?!
HF:  I'm visualizing making accurate head shots with my AR compensating for mechanical offset.
Me:  That's messed up.
HF:  No it's not. We're encouraged to do that

*goes on to describe the visualization process to lucky ol' me*

Me:  And I thought the prolonged silence  meant you were thinking romantical thoughts about me...

Sunday, September 23, 2012

brothers and the brotherhood

image found here
I talked to my brother today. He is a cop in Southern California. He called to tell us he made the SWAT team. I asked him what his wife thought about it. He said, "She thinks it's hot". I laughed. Of course she would. I asked him what our mother thought. He said, "I haven't told her yet". I can guarantee you her reaction will be one of fear, worry, and dread. But isn't that how a mother should react? Perhaps. I suspect a mother never stops worrying about her kids and wanting to protec them in anyway she can.

Our conversation got me thinking about my relationship with my brother. When HF was in the academy, he called us often and gave us lots of support, love, and advice. I was able to ask questions, vent, and HF had someone he could trust and talk to that was on the "inside".

When HF graduated, he came to the graduation and the festivities. He was able to present HF his "diploma" as tradition allowed family members who are LEOs to do so. Once again, he was full of support, love, and advice.

When something big happens to HF at work and I have no one to talk to, I call my brother to tell him about it. He calms my worries, offers his support, love, advice, and sometimes calls HF to check on him and commiserate.

As the years are starting to creep by in LEO world, there's been a shift. When something happens to my brother at work, good or bad, he calls me. Sometimes in the middle of his story, littered with 10-codes and the like, he'll pause and ask, "Do you know what I'm saying?" and I can assuredly say, "yes, I know what you are talking about" with a smile on my face as he continues his story.

There's an unwritten code that exists not only among family members, but among the LEO family. It may not click the first few months or years while you are getting your feet wet, but when it clicks, you will know. Your friendships are deeper, your words are more meaningful, and the fear of the unknown is but a distant memory, always in the back of your mind somewhere, recalled on certain days and times as necessary, but you've found your niche. Life goes on as normal as it can be. The difference is your family has expanded, your knowledge has deepened, your purpose is refocused.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Protect & Serve: Officer Randal Simmons

I was recently contacted by the people at NRA Life of Duty about one of their features specifically, Protect and Serve. They put together a wonderful tribute for fallen LAPD SWAT Officer Randal Simmons. I was touched by this short film and decided that this is the kind of story that needs to be heard by all. It's a wonderful way to remember the lives of those who protect and serve. We need more officers like Randal Simmons. Here's a description from the website about the feature:
LAPD SWAT Officer Randal Simmons was a well respected officer, a loyal husband, a devoted father and a friend to many. But above all else, Randy was a man of tremendous faith ... a man who truly lived to protect and serve.