Sunday, April 24, 2016

My Life Right Now

I maked this for you all. You're welcome. Police Wives Unite!

Monday, February 1, 2016

Want a Lick?

If I had a nickel for every time someone said to HF, " I pay your salary", or "You work for me", or "Catching all the real bad guys tonight are we" when they are getting a citation. It's oddly comforting when you see moments like this in a movie because you know it's not just you. What are some of the ridiculous things people have said to your LEO? For the most part HF just ignores rude remarks and stays polite and professional, but once in a while he slips in a good, calm, satisfying comeback.

Sunday, December 6, 2015

Free Admission to Knott's Berry Farm

Guys, apparently this has been happening?! From now (November 30th) until January 31, 2016, First Responders will receive FREE ADMISSION plus one guest and additional tix are only $25-$30 each. So basically, my whole family (5 of us) can go for $75. How cool is that?! Also, the Knott's hotel is offering a 25% discount on their hotel during this time for all First Responders. Click here for all the details! 

As a side note, Medieval Times is near Knott's and I've never been. I totally want to go there. My kids would die. Sounds like we might have a new yearly tradition on our hands folks!

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Monday, November 9, 2015

Concealed Carry options

What do you think about this concealment holster for off duty carry? I think it seems like a great option! Has anyone tried it? How do you carry? This seems like something HF would really dig. I think the prices seem reasonable as well. I like their website and I like their videos. 

I've decided 2016 is the year that I get my concealed carry permit. It's something I've been thinking about a lot. Only thing is I rarely wear the type of clothing where one could conceal a gun! Little did I know there exists the well armed woman website with a page dedicated to different carrying options for women. I like the purse holster and the bra holster! What?! Awesome! 

I understand that the idea behind concealed carry is supposed to be a comfort, not comfortable, but for someone who likes to wear skinny jeans and leggings, maxi dresses and skirts, etc. I need to rethink this. And I'm sorry, I am not yet at a stage where I am willing to sacrifice fashion in order to carry a gun. There. I said it. So I love the other options for carrying. Now to think about practicing at a range with onlookers if I have the "boob buddy" holster...

Tuesday, November 3, 2015


Congratulations to Julia! 

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Wednesday, October 28, 2015

LEO Spouse Questionnaire

I received an email from The Marshall Project. They are looking for participants to help in filling out an online questionnaire. Here is an excerpt:

"I'm writing to you from The Marshall Project, a nonprofit, nonpartisan news organization covering criminal justice. We aim to educate and raise awareness around the criminal justice system. 

One of our initiatives is to share the perspectives of individuals involved in the criminal justice system (police officers, former inmates, corrections officers, public defenders, etc.) through a set of questionnaires we publish on our site. 

We recently put together a questionnaire for spouses of police officers and wanted to see if you, and any other women or men you know, might be interested in sharing your experiences."

Here is a link to the questionnaire:

Thursday, October 1, 2015

Feature: Skylark Chainmaille- The Thin Blue Line Series

Today I am featuring a talented jeweler. Elisa, at Skylark Chainmaille. Please read about her, and her Thin Blue Line Series, and enter a giveaway for her store. See details below!

When I was a kid, my favorite cousin became a cop. I remember hed come by the house for dinner (we were in his sector), in his uniform, and I’d peek shyly at him. I thought he was so cool. The absolute epitome of a public servant - ready, willing, and wicked buff (able). Ive had many friends go into law enforcement over the years. Everything from local PD to state to ATF. All of them had that same desire to help. 

My wife was a cop for almost a decade before recently deciding to make a career change. Living as a police family was an incredibly proud thing. My desire to find ways to support her without screaming I LOVE A COP was a hard push/pull for me. So, I created the Thin Blue Line series.  It’s subtle - a quick nod that feels familiar and a little bit secret all at once. I knew I wanted to give a portion of the sales to something law enforcement related, and when one of my wifes friends was killed on duty, that was reinforced. 

I've always been a maker. A taker-apart-er. You know, just to see how things worked. I was the kid who took apart the toaster to see its guts, but then never got around to putting it back together. Too many other things to investigate. 

I love a new IKEA purchase and the hours of assembly required. 

I ask a lot of questions. I want to know how you work, what motivates your thinking, your decisions. 

I started out drawing (when I'd exhausted household appliances to get my hands on) and making massive Lego and block structures that I demanded be left in place in the middle of the kitchen floor. Forts constructed of every available pillow reigned in our family room (in fact, we recently purchased a couch, and I made sure it would yield satisfying couch forts for my daughters, now 1 and 3 and a half. Don’t forget the half).

I learned, and became obsessed with, stained glass as a kid in summer camp, a craft that carried through my college years and beyond. I went to RISD (Rhode Island School of Design), majoring in Industrial Design, honing my critical thinking, and my making. Wood shop, metal shop, drawing, 2- and 3- dimensional design principles... my time in school built upon my visceral need to know how things work, how to build them, and of course, how to take them apart. 

We made a baby, (and eventually adopted a second) and for a while, that put a pause on my making of objects. 

I made our daughter a toy box, and my wife a spice rack, but wood was never my medium of choice. 

I dabbled in jewelry making in college and recently became reacquainted with the craft. It satisfies my need to make, to learn the how and why of a design. And, it allows me to use my powers for good. 

I work in lots of metals, but I like stainless steel the best. It’s got presence to it, warms when you wear it, and it’s tough as hell - just like police families. I hope folks like what they see - I’m always happy to talk about custom orders if you’re not seeing exactly what you want. I want you to love the piece and wear the heck out of it. This is not special stuff to tuck away for those few times a year. Wear it, love it, be proud of it, just like you are of your wo/man in blue. 

ENTER TO WIN: Elisa is offering a $30 gift for her store to be used on anything you want in The Thin Blue Line Series. Just enter a comment below and share this post. This giveaway will end on Halloween, October 31st. I will announce the winner then through

Even if you do not win the giveaway, Elisa is also offering readers a discount code to be used at checkout for 15% of your entire purchase. Use ACOPSWIFE2015 at checkout to receive this special offer.

This coupon code is good until the end of the year.  Happy Shopping everyone! I'm thinking of having a custom bike chain made for HF.... I'l be in touch Elisa...

Wednesday, September 30, 2015


You might have seen this on Facebook as of late. I am not sure where the original source is from, but it is being shared by the thousands via here. A lot of it resonated with HF when he read it. It is true that police officers see things that people aren't meant to see. Things so awful and hidden from public we can't even imagine its existence. LEOs should be loved and supported in this, not abused by the very people they are protecting. If I could give one gift to the world, it would be the ability to see things through another's eyes, or shoes. Whichever metaphor you prefer. Just read this and share your thoughts. It's so great. 

"Those who fight monsters inevitably change. Because of all that they see and do, they lose their innocence, and a piece of their humanity with it. If they want to survive, they begin to adopt some of the same characteristics as the monsters they fight. It is necessary. They become capable of rage, and extreme violence. 

There is a fundamental difference, however. They keep those monster tendencies locked away in a cage, deep inside. That monster is only allowed out to protect others, to accomplish the mission, to get the job done.....Not for the perverse pleasure that the monsters feel when they harm others. In fact, those monster tendencies cause damage...GUILT, ISOLATION, DEPRESSION, PTSD. There is a cost for visiting violence on others when you are not a monster. Those who do so know one thing...The cost inflicted upon society as a whole is far greater without those who fight monsters. That is why they are willing to make that horrible sacrifice so that others may live peaceably.

Before you judge one of us, remember this...

We witness things that humans aren't meant to see...and we see them repeatedly. We perform the duties that you feel are beneath you. We solve your problems... Often by visiting violence upon others. We run towards the things that you run away from. We go out to fight what you fear. We stand between you, and the monsters that want to damage you. You want to pretend that they don't exist, but we know better. We do the things that the vast majority are too soft, too weak, too cowardly to do.

Your life is more peaceful.....because of us.

The current political climate in this country holds that there is nothing worth fighting for. Submission is the popular mantra. Warriors are decried, denigrated, and cast as morally inferior. We know how childish, how asinine, and how cowardly that mindset is.

We know this.....There ARE things worth fighting, and dying for. We know that not every problem can be solved through rational discourse...that some problems can only be solved through the application of force and violence. And, while we do prefer the former....we are perfectly capable of the latter.

We believe that fighting what others fear is honorable, noble, and just....and are willing to pay the price for that deeply held belief. Why? For us, it isn't a choice...

It is what we are. We are simply built that way."

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Home Depot Employee

Home Depot Kitchen Design Tool Logo

I was shopping at Home Depot for a shop vac, and a nice older gentleman asked me if I needed any help. I eventually settled on a Rigid 16 gallon wet/dry vacuum with a detachable blower. Before I could load it up, he asked, "What does your husband do for a living?" I was hesitant at first and then I said quietly, "He's a police officer". He then said to me, "So he's gone a lot from home? Works a lot of holidays and special occasions? You have to do a lot of things around the house by yourself?" I answered "yes" to everything. He said, "I was in the military for many years and I know how hard it is on the family to be gone so much. Tell your husband thanks for his service." He took out his box cutter and opened the box. I was confused and probably looking at him like he was crazy, and then he said, "Oops. Since it's opened, I"m going to have to give it to you 30% off." Then he winked at me and carried it to the front of the store and made sure I had help out to my car. It took me completely by surprise. His kindness really touched me. There are great people out there! In this line of work we rarely look for or see the good in others, but it's there if we pay attention.