HF is totally consumed in the academy, which is a good thing. He said that he feels like his senses are heightened and he hears the shouting commands of the instructors constantly in his head. I've heard that is normal. He also looks like he's been beaten up. He has permanent dark circles under his eyes and looks like he could pass out any second, which he very well could. In the mornings when he gets home from working graves, he staggers into the house, makes his way up the stairs, and falls face down on the bed and is asleep almost immediately. A few hours later he is up and at it again. I'm so proud and grateful for all his hard work. And I am trying to do my best to take care of him and not be too much of a nusiance. There have been the ocassional eager, "HI! I'M WAKING YOU UP NOW BECAUSE I CAN'T BE ALONE WITH THE KIDS FOR ONE MORE SECOND OR I'LL LOSE MY MIND!" But that's not very often.
Anyway. HF has always been an active sleeper. He'll talk, laugh, jerk around or kick--VERY active sleeper. Once, after being married just a few weeks, I woke up to HF leaning over me. It seemed like he was poking at my face. I started slapping his hands away and trying to shove him away from me. Finally, after one unsuccessful attempt after another, he plopped back onto his back and then rolled over and away from me. In the morning, I asked him what he had dreamed of the previous night. He got all excited and said, "It was the weirdest dream! I dreamed that I was bowling, but instead of bowling balls, it was skulls!" So then I knew that he was indeed trying to stick his fingers up my nose and bowl my head in his sleep. I told him what he had done and we laughed about it.
I only sleep with HF on Friday and Saturday nights. The other nights he is working and then sleeping in during the day time. When I go into our bedroom in the late afternoon, the sheets and blankets are all balled up, and the pillows are mangled. Well, last night I found out why. I'm spooning him when suddenly he crunches into a ball and starts elbowing and kicking his legs. He was fighting with someone in his sleep! I backed off and let him finish his fight dream and then I spooned him again when it was over and went back to sleep.
While I'm amused right now with HF's active sleep, I really don't want to punched or strangled. Maybe this will become normal like everything else. Hopefully it won't escalate to more than the occasional scuffle.