Monday, November 16, 2009

new blogs and a life update

I wish I started doing this a while back, but I'm going to start posting the newest police wife and girlfriend blogs as I find them. So here's the most recent from the last few weeks.
Am I missing anyone from the last couple of weeks? I've said it before, but I just love this little blogging community. Looking for police spouse support was nearly impossible until it dawned on me that there were probably police wife bloggers online somewhere. I have found that when I'm feeling like no one understands or gets it, or I just need an answer to a question, I know that there is a small group somewhere that does understand and can answer my questions. It's great. It's definitely helped me deal with whatever's come my way.

In other news: I am tuckered out! My kids threw me a curve ball, which is what kids do on a regular basis, and I have now instituted the bean jar method. The fighting started to get ugly (MOM! Luke hit me on the forehead and pulled my hair because I wouldn't answer his knock knock joke or there's the time when my 6 year old went ballistic when the 1 year old went into her room and she didn't want him to and she began thrashing around and kicking boxes and throwing toys and gnashing her teeth. I gave her the business face and said severely, "that is unacceptable behavior", but inside, my mind was saying, "what in Sam Hill?"). So I happened to have 2 old bags of dried pinto beans. I filled a container with them. Then I got 2 medium sized canning jars and they each put a sticker on their own jar to tell them apart. So now whenever they do anything at all that is good, they get anywhere from 1 bean to a handful. It is working! They are more aware of their behavior because I constantly point out when they do something kind, helpful, or whatever. They watch me put beans in their jar. The 3, almost 4 year old sometimes doesn't care, which was to be expected. He'll do something naughty and I'll say, "Uh Oh. Now I have to take some beans out". Sometimes he'll say, "Take them all out!" but overall, it's working really well and their behavior is improving. When their jars get full they get to choose a new toy or to go on a special outing. Luke wants a new Buzz and Woody toys since he single handedly destroyed his originals (i.e. legs missing, woody's sting broken, seams ripping, marker on the faces, etc.).

Oh, and HF? Who's that? He's never here. And he's been sleeping extra when he is here. But he's got some blogging lined up. Only 6 months in and he's been to court, dealt with his share of calls and perps, and seen the office politics in action. Things I never thought I would have to think about.

Maybe it's because of the holidays, but life just seems busier, and I feel more stressed and tired. So if I'm quiet around here, it's because I'm resting, busy with bad behavior correction, or running around like a chicken with its head cut off. I just thought of one more reason why I'm tired. It's that blasted Harry Potter. I'm addicted. I'm now one of those people that used to frighten me that eat and breathe Harry Potter. We played a game of charades tonight with some friends and when someone was acting out their part, I said, "Stirring a cauldron!" I was way off. And it might just be in my head but I think I got a sideways glance or two. . .

12 comments:

Meadowlark said...
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Meadowlark said...

Thanks for sharing such great sites. You're kinda like a "hub"... most people seem to come thru here. So thanks for doing that. :)

I totally understand the ebb and flow of life. Things are quiet around here, except for a high-risk warrant later this zero-dark, but I'm not ready to be a widow, so not too worried. :)

Slamdunk said...

You should be able to list those supreme negotiation and peace making skills on your resume. Hang in there!

Dori said...

Driving somewhere the other night we got the, "She's POINTING at me!" followed by the throwing of each other's water bottles. We're both up front going, "I thought we had another year or two before this started?!" Guess we were a tad misinformed!

Hang in there! The single mom life of a LEO wife isn't always fun and pretty. My gramps used to say, "I'm going to make it...might not look like much when I get there, but I'm going to make it!" I now understand what he meant.

Meadowlark said...

Dori brought up an important point "single mom life of a LEO wife". Why is it any harder than being a single mom? Um... no dating. No chance at getting a "full-time spouse". Because of that, it's a LOT harder!!!!

KD said...

i'm with you. :-|

Natalie said...

I can TOTALLY relate to the, "Wait. I have a husband?! Where?" especially after the last set of nights he just came off of.

He had training the next morning, then slept, I went out of town for a baby shower while he watched the kids (aka brought them over to his mom's) and didn't get home until late the next day, we saw each other for a few hours on his last day off then he went back to days. I miss him.

mrs. fuzz said...

Dori- "the single mom life of an LEO wife". Couldn't say it better myself! That's often what I feel like when I try to describe what it is like. I love the quote from your gramps too.

Meadowlark- Dating? What's that? I can't remember the last time I went on a date. . . that's actually been on my mind a lot lately.

KD- I get the feeling we have a lot in common at this stage in our lives. :)

Natalie- I miss him too! Not yours, but mine. :)

aj said...

I couldn't find a comment box anywhere else, so this is out of context to this post, i am also a new police spouse looking for support. I am new to this blogging thing too.....So if someone could add me to their list i would be thrilled!!!!

Dori said...

Aj...I tried to leave a comment on your blog but...nothing. Anyway. (((HUGS))) You aren't alone. We're here and we are many. And we've all worn your shoes...I mean, maybe not those exact shoes because I'm rather particular about what I put on my feet...but we've been there. Glad you found your way to Mrs. Fuzz...and to the rest of us.

KD said...

Sorry to hijack Mrs. Fuzz, but I also tried to comment on your blog, AJ, and I couldn't. :(

I am SO WITH Dori ~ we all know how it is, especially those of us who have husbands that transitioned into law enforcement after we met and/or married them. Glad you found Mrs. Fuzz & the rest of us!! :D

Damsel Underdressed said...

I feel fortunate to have found all of you guys. It has really helped me to keep everything in perspective with Mr. Indubitably.

Thanks for linking all of us. If there is ever something I can help anyone with, don't hesitate to email me. :)