I think the hardest thing about HF being a cop and the schedule he has maintained for the last few years has been the lack of family support. Not that they aren't supportive, they just live far, far away. At times the distance has been very, very good, but I'm mostly speaking of his family. My family is a fun, loving bunch. We are laid back, we mind our own busniess, are pretty quiet, but love to laugh and tease, and be together. There is ZERO drama in our family. There is no smothering. I love it.
Maybe it's because I'm the baby of the family, but I find myself *needing* them. Friends are great, but there are so many days that I wish I could just drive to my parents' house for a little visit, or drop my kids off with a sibling for an hour or two, but I don't have that luxury. It's been this way for almost the last decade. ZERO family. We've made some great friends along the way, but we live in more of a transient city. People come and go. Sometimes I just feel plain lonely! I envy the friends here that are surrounded by family. They get together for dinner, they celebrate all the special occasions, they are there for emergencies, etc. This past year while HF was in the academy, it was very lonely. Not really anyone else I could rely on. In a lot of ways it was great. I had to overcome a lot of my shyness, I grew stronger and more capable and less needy, but there were and are plenty of pull my hair out days.
Anyways, sometimes I just have to leave! Especially during the summer. This weekend I will be going on a mini road trip with the kids to see my big sister. We've made lots of plans and I am really looking forward to it. When we get back, my parents will be here for 4th of July weekend. Just these two events will be enough for me to make it to the end of August when I will be wanting to get one last trip in before school starts for Daisy. Maybe we'll go to the Oregon coast to visit my parents.
I would love to meet more police wives here. I've only met one. I'm thinking of starting some kind of club. But I think most of the people in the agency are from around here so they've got their families in place. . .
So I have a couple of questions I want to ask. Do you live near family? If so, do you like it, hate it, or it doesn't matter to you either way. What kind of support network do you have in place other than the police-related blogosphere?