Tuesday, October 6, 2009
*tap, tap* Is this thing on?
You may have noticed that I'm not around as much as I have been in times past. Life for us has been a little nuts lately. We are trying to get more organized instead of just merely surviving.
I have loads to blog about, HF has work stories to share, so stay tuned for that! Exciting, yes. I also have lots of blogs to get caught up on reading.
HF is being sent out of state soon for training to become a R.A.D. instructor. For those of you unfamiliar with R.A.D., it stands for Rape Aggression Defense. I think this is the organization's main website. He is excited about that. He will miss our 1 year old's first birthday, but that's okay, because we are going to do what many have told us to do. Celebrate his birthday when HF gets home the next day. These little holiday/celebration switcheroos take some adjusting to. Anyway, I think R.A.D. is great. I might take a class if he's teaching it.
We had a mini planning session for October. HF has Sundays and Mondays off, but if you work graves you know that the first half of Sunday will be spent sleeping, and then staying up later than you should because you're "not tired", and then you stay up late together "partying" and then Monday is a busy day, but you're really tired because of your late night Monday, and then you are stupid and stay up late again, and then Tuesday you have to go to bed in the afternoon so that you can stay up all night come nighttime. So his 2 days off feel somewhat hectic and out of balance. We vow each week that we will go to bed early so that we can make the next day worthwhile. I told him this morning when the alarm went off again for the 4th time that we aren't wild, young, and free any more and that because we have kids this behavior needed to stop. He mentioned that next weekend he wants to play airsoft. If you've read this blog for a while, you may remember that I've mentioned once or twice an extreme distaste towards airsoft. I clenched my teeth and began clicking my pen. Then he said all upbeat, "I went ahead and took Saturday night off too, so it will be like having a 3 day weekend. I said without any hesitation, "done.", and marked it on the calendar. He said, "I knew you'd go for that."
Another wonderful adjustment to our schedule is HF stays up when he gets home until 8:30 am. He gets the kids their breakfast and gets our 6 year old to school while I get up and exercise (ideally) and sort of shuffle about and get ready for the day. HUGE lifesaver for me. Makes all the difference in the world. He now gets up around 4 pm. Which is fine by me. We have dinner together and spend some family time together and he can help get the kids to bed. This isn't always the case. Twice a week he has a night class, but he's still home in time to put kids to bed.
Next task: scheduling real life, out of the house, dating.
HF works closely with an older sergeant during his shift that he has come to respect and love. Recently, this sergeant told HF that he really likes him a lot, and that he talks about him to his wife all the time, that he reminds him of himself many years ago when he was first starting out, that he likes the way he thinks, the way he speaks, the way he writes his reports, the way he handles any given situation, and that HF was the son he never had. I thought these were wonderful compliments coming from this guy. He also mentioned that he would like to go out on double dates with us. I think that would be a lot of fun. Which brings up the dating issue again . . . and the need for babysitting . . .
Have any of you ever double dated with other officers (or superiors) and their significant others?
That's all I have for now.